Identity has to be uncovered. Stephen King, the great writer, says that the story already exists. He doesn’t have to write it. He just has to dig it up. Finding your identity is a recovery job, not a creative job. God has already written you as a great character in a great story.
I talk to people every week who have no idea how to live in their story.
The path to knowing who you are created to be doesn’t run in a straight line.
- David didn’t step right in and take his place as king.
- Paul didn’t step right into writing the New Testament.
- Moses didn’t step right into leading Israel out of slavery.
- Joseph didn’t step right into saving two nations from starvation.
- Abraham didn’t step right into being a father.
They all “spiraled in.”
Here is one exercise Mancini uses to help you “spiral in”:
Fill in the blanks – I exist to honor
God and help people by ____________ing ___________.
Here are some hints:
- Fill in the blanks for different mile posts in your life – when you were a kid, at your first job, …
- The verb (first blank) is what you do. The direct object (second blank) is more open. It can be what you provide or affect or who you impact. Ideally the second word is what you provide.
- Try filling in the blanks for your favorite Biblical character. Mine is Moses. I’ll show you in another post.
- Don’t be surprised if it is harder than you think. You are trying to define yourself in two words.
If you know “why” you exist, you can begin to make changes in your life that allow you to live more fully out of your identity.
A lot of difficult questions are easily answered if you know who you are.
If you know who you are…
- It is easier to navigate conflict.
- It is easier to know your role.
- It is easier to know when to say ‘No’.
- You don’t have to worry about pleasing people.
- You approach everything with more confidence.
Fill in the blanks – I exist to honor God and help people by ____________ing ___________.
Share some of your attempts to fill in the blanks. Share in the comments the two words that…
- Describe you as a kid. It may seem silly.
- Describe you when you took your first big foolish action.
- Describe you now.
- Describe where you see yourself in five years.